It says in the first verse in Kedoshim that people should try to be holy.What is holy?Aren’t angels holy.How can people be holy?
We know that the nations of the world punish people for doing misdeeds.As a matter of fact their punishments sometimes can be even more strict than that of the Jews! But still it says we do not ascribe to their punishments.The reason is their punishments are different than ours that when they punish, their punishments are not to educate the wrongdoer and to bring them back to good.The purpose of the punishment according to the nations is to save and shield civilians.What comes out of this is the robbers do not realize that what they are doing is wrong.They just try to find ways to steal without being caught!
Hashem does not need to punish people in order to protect the population.Hashem can guard people in other ways.In this way is the Torah different than the judgements of the courts.The Torah is meant to teach.The purpose of the punishment is to make an impression on the wrongdoer and to say to him that what he did is wrong and he should realize that.
This is the reason it says in the first verse that people should be holy.A persons job is to be as holy as they can be.As holy as the holiest Rabbi.So when the robber sees that he was punished only having to pay money and not getting a bodily punishment,he should understand that his robbery is what we are punishing him for.Not to protect other people. We did not whip him or hit him to scare him away from doing that kind of action again.He should work on his desire to steal and realize it is wrong and to stop right away.
People can be holy be rising up from the level they are on and overcoming what they desire . It is not something in the heavens and not something in the sky that people can’t reach.It is something in your hands that takes a little work.
I just want to add one thing. I am going to try to work on that when I get stressed or angry not to take it out on anyone and especially my wife. I got angry the other day and I came home and shouted at my wife.She asked me why are you so upset? I didnt know. I did a self introspection and realized I was angry at the other person. So my job is before I come home to realize that I am angry and put it in my angry box and not let it spread out to my whole being.
It is my blessing that everyone should be able to contain their anger and if they do get angry to admit it and to deal with it in a mature way.
How to admonish someone-“Hocheach Tocheach”
There is a mitzvah to give mussar to your fellow man that is in this weeks parsha. The Shela in parshas Masei states when you admonish someone do not say to him just his shortcomings because he will hate you and will not listen to your words. A person is not supposed to admonish someone if the person will not listen. A person is supposed to say ,”You are a smart guy a great guy.This action is beneath you.A person like you should not be doing these kinds of things.” If you say the mussar in this manner , you are giving mussar to a Chacham,you make him into a Chacham.Then he will love you and will listen to your words.
I gotta include a story in this weeks blog and then I will let you go. In the second world war when most of the Jews of Brisk left the city,there was no one to supervise the butchers of the city with the shechting of the animals .So when the war ended the butchers did not want anyone to oversee them either.There was a need to stop these butchers and to start the hashgacha on them once again.So One of the Rabbanim invited all the others to come to his house and formulate a plan how to start the hashgacha once again.Among he people was one of these butchers who did not want a supervisor on him.Therefore he was an uninvited guest.The Rabbanim of the meeting did not want him to be there.So they asked the head Rav to convince him to leave.But he did not say anything. They tried to make the butcher leave and he did not leave.Finally, they convinced the butcher to go.
They asked the head Rav,why didn’t you ask this guy to leave? He said to them “come and see how powerful the power of embarrassment is.Because of embarrassment, Hashem helped Bar kamtza destroy the Beis Hamikdash.”
“If I were to embarrass this butcher we would’ve lost everything.Nothing good would’ve come of this meeting.”
We should also be extra careful not to embarrass anyone even if it is only a little embarrassing.